Being “Mr. Fixit" is a Losing Strategy

[robinson46176]

[quote="JPG40504"]Maybe I am psychic after all!]



I believe that you misspelled that JPG... The proper spelling is "psychotic"...


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[JPG]

I believe that you misspelled that JPG... The proper spelling is "psychotic"...


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Says the man with tens of SS in storage!:):p

Check yer PM's! No that is not referring to a female 'condition'.

[db5]

[quote="JPG40504"]Maybe I am psychic after all!]

Obviously you are not. If you were you would be psychic before all not after all.

[JPG]

Obviously you are not. If you were you would be psychic before all not after all.

Absolutely correct! And a little 'deduction'!;)

[mpcarr]

This should help you see the problem.

It's not about the nail

[frank81]

Maybe I was just shacked up with the world's worst psychopath but I am going to have to agree with db5 again.

But look on the bright side, no matter how bad you think you have it someone always has it worse.

Something to hopefully be thankful for...when you are asked to be Mr. Fixit, is it immediately followed by a backhanded comment that you're not capable of doing it right?

Something else to hopefully be thankful for...when you do fix it right the first time, rather than a simple thanks do you get anger and resentment for not being a failure?

I could tell you some extreme stories, and I'm sure there are people out there that could make my extreme stories sound tame. All I know is, (assuming this isn't death by papercuts) if a little pouting over misplacing the paper registers as a problem you're doing pretty well.

[benush26]

This should help you see the problem.

It's not about the nail

Now THAT'S good!

[db5]

This should help you see the problem. Or not!

It's not about the nail

Is it the Nail or the Screw? Nail tends to be an unmarried term, e.g., "did you nail her" whereas screw is more broad based (no disrespectful reference intended to broads). Because getting screwed covers both sexes, whereas nailed is generally against women.

There is one thing that married, living together, shacking up, here-today-gone-tomorrow couples and governments know but refuse to acknowledge is that there is no balance of power. One always has more power over the other and will exercise it unless there is an understanding of discernment. What a wonderful term discernment. It means really understanding something before making a decision. Some families manage this, but most don't because a family is not a democracy nor should it be. The concept that everyone votes is absurd. I'd loved to have a job like that (well, union workers do - somewhat). My vote counts equally with every one else's in this family. Imagine a fast food company being run by the newly-hired order takers.

Ultimately, someone has to make the decisions that are best for a company and a family or the two remaining in the household. It's not about the Nail or the Screw, it's about what is best for the family.

[BuckeyeDennis]

Is it the Nail or the Screw? Nail tends to be an unmarried term, e.g., "did you nail her" whereas screw is more broad based (no disrespectful reference intended to broads). Because getting screwed covers both sexes, whereas nailed is generally against women.

There is one thing that married, living together, shacking up, here-today-gone-tomorrow couples and governments know but refuse to acknowledge is that there is no balance of power. One always has more power over the other and will exercise it unless there is an understanding of discernment. What a wonderful term discernment. It means really understanding something before making a decision. Some families manage this, but most don't because a family is not a democracy nor should it be. The concept that everyone votes is absurd. I'd loved to have a job like that (well, union workers do - somewhat). My vote counts equally with every one else's in this family. Imagine a fast food company being run by the newly-hired order takers.

Ultimately, someone has to make the decisions that are best for a company and a family or the two remaining in the household. It's not about the Nail or the Screw, it's about what is best for the family.

It sounds to this pragmatic engineer type that you are in the process of working through a balance-of-power issue with your spouse. Through either good instincts, or more likely, sheer dumb luck, my wife and I have divvied up decision-making responsibilities to match our respective interests and talents. This is less difficult than it sounds, as I am an engineer, and she is a nurse. Much like Jack Sprat and his wife.

Even so, we have had the occasional earthquakes in our relationship, always associated with major life changes. With patience and forbearance, generally followed by humor, they work out after a bit.

Changing subjects, sort of, I am most curious to find out if you have been a clinical practicioner. To me, the 5th ring of hell would be to be a nurse, alternately dealing with degenerating bodily functions, and much worse, the trauma of terminally ill patients and their families. The 6th ring of hell would be to be a divorce lawyer, dealing every single day with angry spouses that feel the need to boomerang their emotional pain back upon their former spouses.

The 7th ring of hell, I must think, is where you go to work each day, and your job is to listen to the truly disturbed and psychotic. And perhaps impossibly, try to make them happier.

[db5]

It sounds to this pragmatic engineer type that you are in the process of working through a balance-of-power issue with your spouse.

What a wonderful term discernment. It means really understanding something before making a decision. I probably should have added "or before jumping to a conclusion." No issues at all. Just stating something that even a casual observer of relationships will have noted after several years.