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Posted: Fri May 23, 2014 12:23 pm
by charlese
It's always a good thing to remind the wife - at the start - you can change the size order to be smaller, but not bigger.

Posted: Fri May 23, 2014 12:35 pm
by terrydowning
You can always go bigger, It just means a redo or a glue up.

Like I said, more shop time, what's the problem??

Paul,

SWMBO = She Who Must Be Obeyed
LOML = Love Of My Life

for me SWMBO = LOML which abbreviation I use is a matter of context.

Posted: Fri May 23, 2014 1:17 pm
by dusty
I've done the work order thing a time or two. What tickered her off was when I showed it to her and got her approval and then asked her to initial it that real trouble began.

Later, when the project was nearing the end and she said "that's not what we talked about", the work order all paid off.

Now, a word of caution, like has already been suggested - pick your battles. Pick your battles carefully; make it worth your while to win. If not worth it - lose!!!

It is real easy and not all that expensive to re-purpose a few pieces of wood or a sheet of MDF.

Posted: Fri May 23, 2014 4:15 pm
by benush26
When we first started dating my Ex's favorite saying was

“I know that you believe you understand what you think I said, but I'm not sure you realize that what you heard is not what I meant.”
:confused:

Little did i know :eek:

I'm not certain I ever built anything for her by design. The only change order I remember she wanted was regarding our marital status. Would have been 35 years this Monday. Yes we were both older when we got married, just had not gotten to the wiser part yet. Well then again, maybe she had!! :o :(

Be well and Happy Memorial Day to everyone!

Ben

Posted: Fri May 23, 2014 5:12 pm
by paulsgreenbarn
terrydowning wrote:You can always go bigger, It just means a redo or a glue up.

Like I said, more shop time, what's the problem??

Paul,

SWMBO = She Who Must Be Obeyed
LOML = Love Of My Life

for me SWMBO = LOML which abbreviation I use is a matter of context.
hah! oK I GET IT NOW. very funny. SWMBO!hah

Posted: Fri May 23, 2014 9:32 pm
by db5
charlese wrote:It's always a good thing to remind the wife - at the start - you can change the size order to be smaller, but not bigger.
Are you kidding? You're not far from LA. There must be a thousand billbords of plastic surgeons telling you that they can the size to bigger.:D

Posted: Sat May 24, 2014 8:21 am
by rlkeeney
Makes me wonder how you guys stay married.

Posted: Sat May 24, 2014 8:48 am
by "Wild Bad Bob"
Ah, an other thread reinforcing the benefits of the simplistic, conflict free, peaceful single life!!!!

Posted: Sat May 24, 2014 9:02 am
by dusty
Ed in Tampa wrote:Dusty
You really know how to get hurt. All I would have to do is wave the work order in front of my wife after she had changed her mind 20 times to get into real trouble.
In fact the work order might even end up where the sun doesn't shine. :eek:

No I have found that when building anything with my wife I need to keep her actively involved in the process. So she can preapprove every step I make.

I'm a month shy of 49 wonderful years of bliss with my wife and if I learned anything it is never to produce any evidence that shows she has changed her mind a dozen times or that the final dimensions she has given me weren't the same at the initial.:D

You need to work a little bit more on "creating harmony in the relationship" even under adverse conditions. After 49 years, you are a little bit behind the power curve but don't dismay. I have been working at this all of our 55 years. Actually, it is longer than that because we dated exclusively all through high school and we did not get married until two years after graduation.

I now live a conflict free, peaceful, married life. Note that I did not declare it simplistic.

Posted: Sat May 24, 2014 11:25 am
by Ed in Tampa
dusty wrote:You need to work a little bit more on "creating harmony in the relationship" even under adverse conditions. After 49 years, you are a little bit behind the power curve but don't dismay. I have been working at this all of our 55 years. Actually, it is longer than that because we dated exclusively all through high school and we did not get married until two years after graduation.

I now live a conflict free, peaceful, married life. Note that I did not declare it simplistic.
Okay explain to me how does having a work order create harmony in relationship???
It seems to me the initiation of one would lead to conflict, "what are you saying I change my mind?" and the use of it after the fact would lead to even more conflict "I don't care what you have written down I told you I wanted it like this. And you never listen to me."