Diana and I have talked many times over the years but "events" last fall kind of triggered more thorough planning. It is a subject that evokes different thoughts and opinions from about everybody.
I am generally pretty pragmatic about life and its events. It doesn't mean that I am uncaring, I just am quite matter of fact about things I can't change.
Our plans might upset some folks especially some in our families as we want our end to be kind of unconventional for this area where most folks tend to handle things the same way as most others. We plan to be cremated which is becoming more common but still not real common here. We do not plan on a conventional funeral (maybe a big dinner), nor do we plan to buy cemetery plots or markers. We also do not plan to be "sprinkled". The current plan is for the first to pass to be cremated and stored in an urn (perhaps made on a Shopsmith)
until the second one of us passes then the ashes be mixed together. We have been together over 50 years, we might as well make it permanent. 
Next I expect to have made forms to pour something like a garden bench in 3 sections and save the form for the seat. When we are both deceased and mixed then have the bench seat re-poured with our ashes blended in the concrete mix. A smallish bronze plaque with names and dates would then be attached. By it being in 3 sections all or just the bench seat could be moved anytime if needed. When the time comes that no one cares enough to take care of the bench it would no longer matter anyway...
BTW, this is legal in Indiana.
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